I saw this slideshow of photos on Instagram by @cbmeditates talking about how we’re overthinking love and that it’s ruining the experience. What stood out to me were these 2 slides that said:
Striking, don’t you think?
I’ve had my fair share of heartbreaks and because of them, for a while, I thought that the lover girl in me died. But someone who loves love like I do, has a playlist called “Hopeless Romantic” on Spotify, and rewatches RomComs every so often when she’s sad, doesn’t give up that easily.
In fact, I was still positive about finding true love. A girl like me is meant to share her life with someone.
The effect of social media
Later on my algorithm started feeding me content above love, I read — ok, fine, I watched — sooo many reels about relationships and dating. The do’s and don’ts. The playbook. How do you know if they actually like you? If he wanted to, he would! I felt overwhelmed. When did love become so complicated? I had all these burning questions in my head that I wanted to answer.
But then in true lover girl fashion, I found myself in love. I was smiling over texts and daydreaming of the future. Best of all, all the love songs made sense again.
However, to my surprise, I had become hypervigilant about love and relationships. I was more inside my head, overanalyzing things instead of just experiencing them. Good thing the I stumbled upon these images because they made me realize what is important.
The resolution
And that is to live in the moment. Being in the present. And surrendering to love and all that it brings. Turns out I don’t actually need to have all the questions answered or put labels on everything. It only caused me unnecessary stress.
From now on I’ll focus on feeling the actual experience and trust that it will all work out. It always does. ✨
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